Just because she hasn’t given up her freedom doesn’t mean she isn’t a giver. In fact this time of singleness is the place from which the Single Woman can do the most amazing things! Her energy, her time, her decisions, her space and her thoughts are all her own – she is a powerhouse in pink-bottom pumps.
Every human being has a purpose. The Single Woman is no different. She has a purpose and the advantage of not needing to conform her own to the purpose of another or be distracted from her own purpose to provide for the needs of a partner.
Single Women often find great joy in service. Princess Diana moved land mines from mountains and changed lives when she got rid of the unfaithful frog she kissed at the altar. Mother Theresa was married to God (now you can’t beat HIM as a Platonic Husband! Or Security System for that matter!). She changed the way the world treated its sick and dying. Oprah crashed through glass ceiling after glass ceiling until there was no modern woman on earth that had not been reached by her wisdom and inspired by her example.
Single Woman, what is Your purpose? How can YOU serve?
We are a diverse demographic. Single Women are nurses, biker chicks, students, lawyers, maids, police officers, secretaries, accountants, actresses, stewardesses, bank tellers, construction workers, fire fighters, doctors, and judges. There are few social circles in which we do not move. If we were to focus on meeting the needs of the world from right where we are right now, this rock would spin smoother, fewer people would suffer, and we would be the most powerful movement on earth.
Let’s take an example. The Single Woman manager of a health insurance company. On Wednesdays she spends her lunch hour talking to students at the local high school about their futures and the possibilities open to them in the world of business. On Thursdays she attends the Rotary Club, on Fridays she takes lunch to an elderly lady, on Saturdays she babysits for a single mother, on Sundays she serves in her local church. And that is her spare time. Every day of the week she is serving her clients. When they become patients in a foreign country she is their coordinator and advisor. When they run out of money on their benefits plan she becomes their negotiator and solution-finder. When they are struck by a catastrophe at 2 in the morning she is up on the phone arranging their emergency care or their safe evacuation. She is serving. Every day. In her work and in her play.
Another example. The Single Woman who is a nanny in the home of a wealthy family. She works seven days a week and lives in the spare room of her employer’s house. She doesn’t have free time. Yet she can serve. The children in her care are bathed three times a day and fed healthy meals. She teaches them lessons in life like how to wash the dishes, how to share with each other, how to respect themselves. She reads bedtime stories to them. She tucks them in at night. She turns on the night light. They wake to her smile and the smell of breakfast. She is serving. Every day.
How the Single Woman can serve from right where she is…
- Live to serve – Every thing a Single Woman does is an act of service. If she begins to examine her actions with a view to focusing them on service she will be able to make a major difference in her own life and in the life of others. For example, the Single Woman is a receptionist. She answers the phone. If she channels every action into an act of service she will know that when the phone rings the beneficiary of her service is the caller. She will put a smile on her face that makes its way into her voice and be as helpful as she possibly can to assist the caller with obtaining what he is calling for. Every action is an act of service. And every act of service has a beneficiary.
- Smile – In living to serve, a Single Woman will learn that the easiest and most inexpensive form of service is her smile. It is an act of service. There is always a beneficiary. A team leader that smiles when speaking to the members of his team will encourage that team to perform. A customer service agent smiling to a complaining customer can turn that complaint around. There is money to be made in the business of smiles. But, more importantly, there is also much joy to be had. A smile is a priceless act of service.
- Spend time serving with others – Join a church, join an organization, meet like-minded people also focused on service, serve with them to better your world. Pick a charity, a cause, a doctrine that you believe in and commit to it. Pick a service club. Or pick a group of people in need you would like to reach. When people band together they are better able to change the world. Even in service there is power in numbers.
Testimony of a Rotaracter:
“I joined Rotaract as an excited idealistic young Single Woman. I had just moved back home from University abroad and didn’t know many people. But I wanted to give back to my community and got past my shyness enough to accept the invite to a Rotaract meeting. At my first Rotaract meeting I was greeted with humour and smiles. The discussion was lively, non-political, and geared towards what we, as young people, can do to benefit our world. In my time with the Rotaract club I have been exposed to the greater world of service – the Rotary Family has been instrumental in erradicating polio worldwide. We have been first responders to major disasters in Haiti, India, New Orleans and Japan. We have been carers for our own communities feeding the elderly, throwing Christmas parties for the poor, cleaning up littered beaches, sponsoring youth programs and teaching adults who have never learned how to read. I am a part of a large family that serves the world as well as each other.
“May Rotary friends and Rotary ways help us to serve thee all our days” .
Single Women, let us be the movement we were meant to be. Starting with a smile. Today.
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