…at least my good behaviour!
This is part of an old and complicated story… a place in my life that I was taken from with some amount of pain. Maybe one day I will tell it… but for now this is the message I had for a daughter who was once and briefly mine.
Even though I had no part in bringing you to life and didn’t give your little body a home, I am the woman honoured with shepherding you at this moment, the end of your girlhood. I see all my habits and flaws in the stark light of Truth. I see how much of me needs to change, and how much has changed by Grace, for me to be worthy of being your example.
I also see the innocence, the unbruised hope, and pray that it lasts throughout your life. I watch you battle next to me as I battle through the challenges of my life, practicing for your own womanhood in the shadow of my example. I see you grieve for me as I grieve, learn as I learn, and grow as I grow. And sometimes more.
I long for you to love yourself as I love you. You are a unique being created to reflect a beautiful part of God’s image that no other being has ever done or ever will do. So BIG and AMAZING is our God that each person, a prism to reflect a part of the image of who He is, is unique. Your piece, your unique image, is one that cannot be replicated and is beautiful and strong.
He must have been smiling designing this woman on His heavenly drawing table, delighted in her intricate mind and the mystery of each cell of her body. Late into the night I imagine that he drew, as the angels sang in the background. He put you in a welcoming womb and laughed with you as you first smiled up at your adoring mother as she counted ten perfect fingers and ten perfect toes in awe. He grieved with you and sheltered you under his feathers when she was untimely ripped from your tender life. He sheltered you from blows and led you to a place of safety over very rocky ground and slippery slopes. Of COURSE He loves you!
You are special and dear to him and to me.
And so my dear one, never let any man, woman, pastor, friend, teacher or enemy change the way you look at you. YOU are beautiful for a reason – He decided you should be and delighted when He made it so. YOU are strong for a reason – He decided you would be and He made you so. YOU have your own mind for a reason – He wanted you to know Him for yourself and He made it so. YOU are right here right now for a reason – His plan for you is perfect and He will make it so.
Do you baby. Only you can do you. He made it so. And so, in thanks to Him, do you WELL.
An interesting note on generational change…
“As a child, my father taught me a lot of great things. He taught me the value of hard work. He taught me the love of Baseball. He taught me that I must be responsible for my actions. He taught me that being honest is a virtue that will get you places.
My dad lied to me about one thing. Now, I must say that he did not mean to lie to me. His intentions were good. In his defense, my father is not the only person that told their son or daughter this statement. An entire generation was told that a college education is a very important thing for a person to have, and it is essential to financial success.
That is the lie. It is a complex lie with multiple layers of assumptions and beliefs that on the surface are true, but under closer examination are false…
Read more of this post at… The Biggest Lie My Father Told Me: A College Education Matters.