It’s so funny… a year ago when I engaged the services of a Life Coach I didn’t see this coming. Who would know that I could become a Life Coach?
In this new space I work with individuals who are looking to make a shift in their lives (friendships, romance, work, money, family, dreams). What I do is partner with them to make it happen by providing them with tools, reflection and accountability to have them get out of their own way. This has them get past their obstacles and step into an authentic and empowered reality of their own design.
The beautiful thing about this is, I get to practice what I preach. In order to walk with others as they get their lives together, I need to be getting my life together. I too have a coach. In order to work with others to get real, I too must get real.
In the beginning of the coaching relationship we have the Essence Conversation. It is a place where we examine our automatic ways of being, our fears, our survival mechanisms and our comfort zone – all instruments of a fear-driven life. The foundation of coaching is partnering to design and to live an authentic life. But in order for you to be authentic, you have to first know who you are, right? This is part of the purpose of the conversation – to mine our essence from the hills of our lives.
Today, in celebration of who I am, I introduce to you my Essence:
JOY : a source or cause of keen pleasure or delight; something or someone greatly valued or appreciated.
PRESENCE: the state or fact of being present, as with others… Stately or distinguished bearing… The impressive manner or appearance of a person.
PURPOSE: a person’s sense of resolve or determination.
MAGNET: a person or thing that has a powerful attraction.
GODDESS: a woman whose great charm and beauty arouses adoration.
When I began this journey I was given two warnings.
1. You will struggle in essence. Living from essence strips you naked of your armor and puts you in a place of great vulnerability. It will make you very sensitive to rejection because what is being rejected is the authentic you. It’s OK when our survival mechanism is rejected! It was never really us to begin with!
2. There are people in your life who will reject you from essence. They have been friends with your ego. They are attached to the image they have of you. They do not understand your journey or your struggle. Not only will you struggle, but life around you will resist the change.
This can look like a major adjustment with struggles through emotions that get dredged up or it can be a gentle realization. I’ve always been more of an epiphany-learner and so the consequences of this new consciousness has slammed into me like a train. I never understood either of these things until this month. I am raw and naked and there are a few (thankfully very few) people in my life who are in resistance to the changes.
By the grace of God as I grow into someone who works with others to get their lives together, my life will be working itself together too.