This blog began as an experiment, to record a story as it unfolded. It began with a heartbreak and a haircut and was intended to track the journey to healing and a full flowing mane. I have discovered many things along the way – bits and pieces of myself, my struggles, my beauty and my strength have to come to my conscious understanding. A lot of lessons and experiences have made writing an interesting passtime. But recent days have brought to the forefront a purpose. A purpose to be TRUTH.
Truth is a difficult thing to face. Particularly if facing it and speaking it could bring repurcussions and judgement from those around us. It is a particularly difficult when the effects of it could land unsolicited on the lives of loved ones like husbands and children. This is where I have found a major purpose and the advantage of singleness. And what a discovery this has been!
I’M WIDE AWAKE! I have a new understanding of what Paul had to say about singleness:
An unmarried woman is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.
1 Corinthians 7:34
What is the work of God? Truth. Truth is God’s business. If I am unconcerned with the needs of a husband, I am free to speak and be truth. If I am free of fear of what my husband will think or of any harm that might come to him from what I do or say or challenge in truth, I am able to make change happen.
It is our responsibility to live authentic lives. Fear is what gives birth to falsehood. Survival mechanisms and alter egos are designed to protect us from the side effects of being true. But once we get to the place of fearlessness the sky is the limit and change is clay in our hands.
For the single this is a much easier journey. Fear for ourselves is all we have to surpass. And each of us has a calling to get past that fear and break out with some truth.
What is your purpose? What is the truth that you are called to be?