There is a common characteristic in the Single Woman demographic – we like to play hero.  We work hard, we play hard, we short ourselves of sleep, we have a hard time telling the boss “No I’m not able to work this fifth consecutive weekend SIR” and many of us get to December only to realize that ooops, we forgot to take our vacation.

In the twisted corporate culture fuelled by billable hours and mercenary competitiveness, this form of self-harm has been turned into a virtue.

Ladies.  It is not.  Take your vacation.


1: a respite or a time of respite from something : intermission
2a: a scheduled period during which activity (as of a court or school) is suspended b: a period of exemption from work granted to an employee
3: a period spent away from home or business in travel or recreation <had a restful vacation at the beach>
4: an act or an instance of vacating
 Merriam Webster Dictionary (online)
A friend of mine is an accountant who works some twelve hours a day on a normal week day with frequent appearances at the office on weekends.  At the same time as studying for a professional qualification.  A brilliant woman, she never failed an exam in her life until the plate just got too full.  And it dawned on her – “Bushy, if I were to die tomorrow I would not have lived, I would have only worked!”
We shouldn’t be living to work!  Work should be a tool we use to live well.  The vacation is the reward, that moment of living well when we can simply enjoy the fruit of our labour.  It is a time of being supported by labour laws and contracts.  Guilt has no place in here.
Mind you, the vacation is not only a break from work.  There are other things we need vacation from – a vacation from studies, a vacation from relationships, a vacation from church (Yes.  I said it.), a vacation from clubs, a vacation from obligations.  And then, every once in a while, we need a vacation from our ENTIRE LIFE.
This happens to me at least once a year.  I need out of my house, away from my dogs, far from my friends, apart from my family.  I need to eat things I’ve never eaten, meet people I’ve never seen before, immerse myself in an environment totally foreign to me.  A vacation from my life.
Usually by the end of such a radical departure from my reality I am happy to return to it, refreshed and rejuvenated.  On vacations from my life I have learned some of the most profound truths about myself and stumbled upon the most life-changing ideas and discoveries.  From such life vacations I return to my world, my routine and my loved ones with something new to give, someone better to be.
To my Lady, do not neglect your self.  Bosses will come and bosses will go but She is the only thing you are guaranteed to have every day of your life for the rest of your life.  Your wellbeing depends on your provision for her, your attention to her, and your giving her the rest she needs.

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