This applies not only to Every Single Woman but perhaps to every single woman out there. You have one life to live and the contribution you make to the world around you will influence heavily how you feel about yourself nearer to the end of your life.
On average, a Single Woman will work 9 a.m. to 5 p.m., 5 days a week from the age of 19 to 65. If she goes to college and starts later around 24 she works long hours to catch up with this stat anyway and so we’ll work with that. So call it 7 1/2 hours a day, five days a week for fifty weeks for the year taking into account an average of 2 weeks vacation. For 47 years. That amounts to 88,125 hours in a lifetime spent on the job, not including overtime.
Shouldn’t those hours count? And I don’t mean to someone else – shouldn’t they have meaning for you?
Our lives are our own. Our employers buy some of our time for the furtherance of their businesses. But at the end of the day they are still our hours in the one life that we have to live.
The Job You Love will have all or a good number of the following elements that when you are added into the mix, magic is made.
- Meaning. It should involve work close to your heart and something that means something to you as a person. If you prefer to work with people, you are far less likely to find meaning in a city accounting firm with a calculator and a spreadsheet all day. If you hate conflict you are unlikely to find that meaning as a barrister or courtroom attorney.
- Enjoyment. We can find meaning without enjoyment but they are closely related. We can also find enjoyment without meaning. But one of the two must be present. If you have never looked forward to waking up in the morning and going to work, you probably don’t enjoy your job.
- Space to grow. This is important to some and less important to others but I find that without it there is very little meaning or enjoyment in the job for me. Usually a person doesn’t fall into a job at 19 and find the same joy in the same job at 30. But if you do, good for you! You have found your calling.
- A great boss. Most people who have had more than one job have left their previous engagements, not because of the job but because of their boss. The integrity at the top filters down and flows like a fountain. So does the rot. In an interview feel out your prospective boss – you are interviewing them as well as them interviewing you.
- A valued contribution. If you are a part of a team and you don’t feel your own worth to that team it can be a joy killer. From the cleaner to the CEO, each job is a valuable contribution to the working of the whole and nothing would run smoothly without it. You need to not only know that but feel that. With the value that you place on your job you will be able to muster up the pride that you should take in a job well done.
We women have traditionally looked at jobs differently than men do. They were there to pay the bills and fund your life, the personal life in which you find your meaning. It is said that men define themselves by their jobs, women define themselves by their homes.
But this is all changing. The value that we bring to the workforce is now seen for the irreplaceable gold that it is and there is magic for the Single Woman waiting for her in the job that she loves.